If you have just found out you are pregnant, congratulations! Among other things, now is the time to think about where you want to have your baby. Public hospital? Private hospital? Birth centre? Home? Some places limit the number of birthing women they can take so it is a good idea to book in early. You can always change your mind! Research your options and ask questions. Are you likely to get the type of birth you want in the place you have chosen? If you know you definitely want an epidural for example, then a birth centre is obviously not for you, but if you know you want to avoid drugs then a home birth or birth centre might be your perfect choice.
Get prepared physically and mentally. Pregnancy is not the time to begin an exercise regime if you are not usually active, but swimming, walking and pregnancy yoga or pilates are good low impact forms of exercise that can be done by most people. Make sure you discuss this with your Midwife or Doctor first though if you have any pregnancy or medical complications or haven't exercised for a while.
A lot of the birthing process is about mental strength so think positive. Everybody loves to share their stories about birth, be they good or bad, though more commonly the bad ones. Surround yourself with the people who make you feel good and empower you, not the ones that want to frighten you. You can do it.
If you are later on in your pregnancy and this is your first baby, or first vaginal birth, perineal massage may help to prevent tears. This can be done by you or your partner and has other benefits such as getting you used to some of the sensations you may experience as the head is birthing so they are not as overwhelming. The following websites have some good information on how to perform this:
Unexpected things can and do happen during pregnancy and birth. There are endless possibilities, so it is really important to read, research and get as much information as you can. By information I don't mean those horror stories, I mean good quality, well researched information that you would be willing to make a life changing decision based on.
Caroline May
Midwife and Mother of two.
